Information Gleaned from the Annals of Counseling Psychology
Many women have experienced a sexual experience followed by a feeling of sadness. Even if the sex was satisfying, the feeling of sadness or depression after it is more common than you might think. Surprisingly, according to a one study, 46% of women reported feelings of sadness after sex.
What factors contribute to this post-sexual depression or sadness? The following are reported most often:
Biology, Postcoital Dysphoria
Postcoital Dysphoria (PCD) is a term used for the “post-sex blues.” It is thought to be biologically based. Its symptoms are tearfulness, melancholy, spiking worry, agitation, or even aggression. PCD is a biological condition. If you sometimes feel depressed after sex, it may be triggered by biological causes.
Lack of Closeness or Bonding with your Partner
Feelings of sadness after sex can also be triggered by a lack of deep emotional connection with your partner. Some people are able to compartmentalize or shut down the emotional side of sex. They are able to have casual sex or “one-night stands.”
However, you may need a meaningful sexual connection to be happy with your sexual experiences. Be honest with yourself. Ask yourself if you’re able to view sex as just a fun, pleasurable activity, or if you really need a deeper connection with your partner. Important: Be honest. Don’t try to force yourself to engage in casual encounters when you can’t truly enjoy them.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
PTSD is a psychiatric disorder that often develops in those who’ve experienced or witnessed a traumatic, life-threatening event. If you suffered a violent or sexual assault, the cause of your after-sex blues could be PTSD. Memories of the trauma might pop-up, consciously or sub-consciously during sex, triggering you to experience depression.
Your Family History
Being raised in a family where you were made to feel ashamed about sex can also be the cause of sadness or even shameful feeling after sex. It’s not uncommon for women, particularly, to feel post-sexual panic, anxiety or depression, with their issues triggered by subconsciously associating sexuality with shame.
Many factors can lead to a sad feeling after sex. Possible factors could include a bad relationship, impaired self confidence or self-esteem, bad choice of partner, substance abuse, or many others. They can all be factors in experiencing sadness after sex.
An expert counseling psychologist can work with you to determine the cause of your sexually-triggered sadness and help you discover coping skills to prevent it.
If you’re struggling with this issue, live in the Cary, Il area, and need guidance, call my office today and let’s schedule a time for your initial consultation.
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