When things get really bad, many couples are ready to throw in the towel. That’s because they didn’t seek help in time and things got out of hand.
The Stigma of Counseling in Mchenry County and Middle America
It can be hard to make the decision to go to couples counseling because it means you have to face your problems and admit you and your partner are on shaky ground. That can be incredibly scary to admit. It’s not dissimilar to thinking something may be wrong with your health, but you’re too scared to face the music and so you ignore the issue until it gets way too big.
Beyond having to admit you have problems, there’s also the discomfort of not being familiar with relationship therapy. It can definitely feel scary sitting down with a total stranger and sharing personal relationship information.
Because of this, far too many people let their marriage problems sit on the back burner, percolating. But the better option is to nip an issue in the bud as soon as it rears its ugly head.
The following are some of the most common issues that require some time in couples counseling.
Broken Trust Leads to Feelings of Betrayal
Whenever there is a major breach of trust, as in an extramarital affair, there is usually a need for couples counseling. A therapist can help to rebuild trust.
More Frequent and More Hurtful Arguments
To each relationship, some conflict is normal. But when you start having frequent angry arguments and loss of tempers, it’s time to ask for help. An increase in the intensity of fighting often means significant problems below the surface.
A Devastating Life Crisis
Life throws us crises out of the blue. Whether it’s a financial loss or the loss of a loved one, the trauma can change the way you and your partner get along.
These are just a few of the reasons you and your partner should consider couples counseling. It’s always better to seek help sooner rather then later.
I have a doctoral degree from The University of Southern California and 40 years experience. I accept your insurance, listen to you carefully and practice in Cary, IL, near Crystal Lake.
If you are interested in treatment options, please be in touch with me. I’d be happy to discuss how I may be able to help.