As a new mother, Amanda noticed that taking care of herself and a new baby at the same time was next to impossible. She didn’t know what she needed to thrive when she was on call 24/7, responsible for keeping her new baby alive and happy?
It’s no wonder that she felt so emotionally and totally overwhelmed. She knew she needed a break, but felt guilty about even needing one.
I taught her relaxation exercises and convinced her that it’s okay to ask for help. And taught her some ways to do it:
… to be Realistic
She had to remember that even though she was a new mother, she was still an individual who had her own needs and remember that being a great mother has nothing to do with being a superhero. I told her to never feel that she has to go it alone; everyone needs help now and then.
…to be Honest
She needed to stop trying to be the greatest mother who has ever lived and do everything by herself. When a family member or friend asks how she is doing, I told her to be honest with them. To let them know she is feeling exhausted and stressed and could use some help.
She experimented with having someone watch her baby for an hour so she could get out of the house. And even having them watch the baby so she could simply clean the house.
She even decided to post a list of household tasks, such as laundry, washing dishes, cleaning bathrooms, and had her husband pick something from the list to take off her plate.
…to be Flexible
When asking others for help, she learned to make it known to them that she appreciates they are busy too and that she would be happy to get their help whenever it works for them. This meant that the recycling didn’t get packed up and taken to the center until later, but she was fine with it because she was the one asking for help and was willing to be a bit flexible with WHEN she received it.
…to be Safe
Remember, if you are suffering from postpartum symptoms it is incredibly important that you ask for help. Lingering feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, fatigue, and hopelessness need to be addressed.
Amanda underwent 6 visits of counseling with me and at the end her anxiety and depression disappeared.
Remember, Expert Counseling is Available to You in the Algonquin, Cary and Crystal Lake Area!
If you or a loved is suffering from postpartum depression and would like to explore treatment options, please be in touch with me. I would be more than happy to discuss how I may be able to help.