There was a time when the phrase passive-aggressive was rarely uttered. But it’s a phrase that is now mentioned often.
However, is it hard to pinpoint what that behavior looks like exactly.
Do you know any passive-aggressive people? Do you know what real behaviors to spot? Keep reading to find out.
They Don’t Say No
Passive-aggressive people play the part of the victim. They’ll never just come out and say “no.” Instead, they’ll just go along with others, and then sigh, shake their head and roll their eyes because they didn’t get their own way. Do you know anyone like this?
They are Chronic Complainers
Every other sentence out of them seems to be a form of complaint. They are usually low-grade, as again, they try to mask their real feelings. It’s always a guessing game with them.
Do you have a coworker who resents that he wasn’t assigned to head your project? Does he show up to work late? Work at a snail’s pace? Take long breaks? When passive-aggressives don’t get their way, they will throw some form of tantrum.
They Love Getting a Reaction
They push buttons. Once they know what annoys you, they can’t help but do it over and over again.
They “Accidentally” Withhold Information
Have you ever had a roommate or romantic partner take a call and then “accidentally” forgot to give you the message? Did it happen frequently?
They Appear Absent-Minded
Have you ever known someone who seemed brilliant, and yet, in a second, became the Absent-Minded Professor? They suddenly forgot where they placed the important documents you need for a meeting? Or where they put your purse. Again, these are often instances of someone who has disguised anger and resentment, but who can’t just confront in a mature manner.
If you know what signs to look for, steer clear as much as possible!
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