Relationship Counseling Can Change Your Life!
Chances are you and your significant other have hit a snag in the relationship. Maybe you’ve grown apart or do little else than argue these days.
No matter the good intentions or love you had when the relationship began, it is completely natural for a relationship to take a hit every now and then. It happens everywhere, including Mchenry County, Il and its suburbs.
Here are some ways to improve communication in your relationship:
1. Be Open and Acknowledge the Change
Be open and honest. Don’t deny that something has deteriorated in your relationship, admit it openly. Acknowledge how each of you has changed over the years. Nobody stays the same. Our wants, needs, passions, annoyances, etc. change as we mature and grow. Spouses can often accommodate these changes as long as they admit it has happened.
2. Validate Each Other’s Feelings
Two words that are very powerful in relationships are, “Yes, and…” Effective communication is not about one person being right and the other wrong. Often, both people are right and must be allowed to experience their feelings. IMPORTANT: Don’t attack the other person. Instead, focus on simply being heard and hearing the other person. Have a reasonable discussion-do not argue!
3. Be Ready to Problem-Solve-not Argue
If you want to improve your communication as a means to get the other person to change their ways, you are really thinking about this communication thing all wrong! Good communication is not about winning an argument. This is not a debate class. Your goal is to better share your thoughts, feelings, ideas, hopes and struggles with each other. Don’t be so focused on getting the other person to change and focus more on how your own behavior could change.
Managing your emotions is one of the most important skills when it comes to problem solving in your relationship. How often are you ready to blow when you and your spouse or partner are speaking to each other?
When communicating with anyone, should you feel your emotions rise, stop, take a slow, deep breath, and let it out. Taking this moment is crucial and will help you not to say something you’ll regret or that will escalate the situation.
None of us are perfect. All we can do is try to be the best versions of ourselves we can be for ourselves and our loved ones. By following these communication tips you will be able to strengthen your relationships.